NOH8

I don’t know who you are, and you don’t know me. However, we have a mutual Facebook friend, and that’s how I came across and was able to read the words you don’t even realize have torn me down. You claim that you have never used hate, bigotry, or harassment to promote your beliefs, but your words tear at the very fiber of my being. You’ve thrust libel out onto to net in order to try and pull others into your thinking, and you don’t even realize who you’re hurting in the process. You claim to be a Christian, but my guess is that your God would chastise you for spreading such a hateful message.
To claim that gays have an “agenda” and that “the gay agenda” is the number one supporter of child pornography is ludicrous, and I would love to see your proof from “the FBI” as you claim. I would agree with you, however, that gays are connected to the highest percentage of violent crime, because that violent crime has partially been against us. Due to the hateful nature of so many people “Lesbian, gay, and bisexual youth are up to four times more likely to attempt suicide than their heterosexual peers (Massachusetts Youth Risk Survey 2007).” 
Because people find it so hard to be truly accepting, “LGB youth who come from highly rejecting families are more than 8 times as likely to have attempted suicide than LGB peers who reported no or low levels of family rejection (Ryan C, Huebner D, et al – Peds 2009;123(1):346-352).” 
“Nine out of 10 LGBT students (86.2%) experienced harassment at school; three-fifths (60.8%) felt unsafe at school because of their sexual orientation; and about one-third (32.7%) skipped a day of school in the past month because of feeling unsafe (GLSEN National School Climate Survey 2009). Sexual minority youth, or teens that identify themselves as gay, lesbian or bisexual, are bullied two to three times more than heterosexuals. (Nationwide Children’s Hospital, Columbus, OH 2010).”
I offer you proof. Proof that the LGBT community stands a higher chance of being faced with hate crimes than members of the heterosexual community. 
You’re fully entitled to your beliefs but to post such comments on Facebook just goes to show how hurtful you are to your own Christian foundations. I’m sorry to be the bearer of bad news, but people like you are the reason why Christians have such bad reputations. I know incredible people of faith who don’t always believe my lifestyle is acceptable, but that doesn’t keep them from accepting me as a person. To say that gays are a part of an agenda to promote violence and child pornography is just ridiculous and goes to show that you don’t really even know who we are. 
Do you want to know our real agenda? Let me tell you. Our real agenda is to find love. To be able to live our lives with the person we love without ridicule or having to worry about what might happen to us if we walk down the road holding hands or if we kiss each other in public. We want to be able to start families and raise our children with the same kind of love that everyone else gets to experience. We are not the threat to the sanctity of marriage that so many would claim we are; if there’s such an attack on the sanctity of marriage, it comes from divorce, not from same-sex marriage. 
The love I have to offer to my future partner is just as real as any other love. It’s not tainted with lust, and it didn’t originate from any kind of childhood trauma or abuse. It’s the love I was born with. My dream is to one day be able to look into the eyes of my partner and be completely lost in something amazing. To be held and know that our love is real. 
Being gay is not the life I chose. In fact, it’s the life I fought for years. I tried to be just like everyone else. Tried to pray away the feelings for men, tried to force myself into heterosexual relationships. What resulted from these attempts was unhappiness and depression. Thoughts of ending my life, because I was raised thinking that the love I had to offer was wrong and that somehow I made a choice to be the way I am. I didn’t make a choice to be gay. One doesn’t simply wake up one day and say “Today is a good day to start being gay. I think I’ll leave girls behind and try out a lifestyle where I’ll live in constant fear of what everyone else around me thinks. A lifestyle where it’s not ok to spend the rest of my life with the person I love under commitment of marriage. A lifestyle where I’ll have to constantly look over my shoulder when I’m with the person I love just to make sure I’m not going to be physically attacked for displaying my love in public.” 
If you don’t believe that same-sex love is right or that it actually exists, so be it. I’m not writing this to change your mind. I’m writing this to let you know that your claims of having never spread hate, bigotry, or harassment are false. If you don’t believe in gay marriage, then by all means, please never marry a man. In your practice of being a preacher, you’re even entitled to never marry a gay couple. But to write things like “gay agenda” and “number one supporter of child pornography” is an attack against the love that the LGBT community has to offer.  
Christianity is supposed to be a faith surrounded by spreading the unconditional love of your God and the same love that you’re supposed to express to those around you, not the unrelenting hatred that stems from your lack of humanity. 
My faith is blind, and I’m not sure what kind of higher power (if any) is out there. But I don’t need faith in a god to love people. I don’t need faith in a god to desire an achievement of the same homes and dreams that others desire to have. My life has been surrounded by incredible people that love and support me, just as I’ve made it my mission to love and support others, no matter what their beliefs are. My mission is people plain and simple. I don’t have a hidden agenda. My agenda is pretty clear: I want to find love, and I want that love to be recognized for what it is and not for what those with your views claim it to be.

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